Wow!! What Else Can be Said??

I finally got finished reading “Paper Genders” written by Walt Heyer. This is yet another book I would highly recommend people read. Walt Heyer is a man who had gender altering surgery, and lived many years as a “female”, then had surgery to return to his biological sex. I’ve watched him on YouTube, as he has told the story of his own personal regret in having changed (or tried to) his biological sex. I believe his statement in the Introduction of this book to be true – “I think researchers will eventually find that the symptom of wishing to identify as the opposite gender originates from many disparate medical and psychological issues, rather than a one-size-fits-all diagnosis.” 

He points out just how horrible it is to regret having “sex-change” surgery, and that many people who actually have surgeries do end up regretting it.  Sadly, the media keeps quiet when it comes to these facts.  Instead they focus on how sex change surgeries can be performed (although they still cannot literally alter the person’s biological sex) – now days these procedures are glamorized.  The media could easily be held accountable for their “one-sided” reporting on this ever-growing and popular subject.

The suicide rate in transgender people is 41 percent, and that’s more than 25 times the rate of the general population.  And for trans people who are 18-44, the suicide attempt rate was 45 percent.  These numbers are from a survey released in 2010, so they could be much different 7 years later – and I truly doubt the numbers would show any improvement as far as lessening the mortality rate in the transgender population.  The numbers are from an online site created to provide online support for all transgender people and their families.  They are based on crisis calls over a 5 year time frame.  This site states there are common problems dealing with those who decide to try and alter their gender.

“Common problems are strokes, heart attacks, silicone injections and deep vein thrombosis.  There are also thousands of cases of unreported violence leading to death.”  (Page 2)

“The gender change activists would argue the suicides are a direct result of bullying, a popular scapegoat these days.  The advocates also say a lack of transgender acceptance and the difficulty of being gender variant in a society of heterosexuals lead to suicides, but as the last transgender support site disclosed, transgenders harm themselves either by cutting or self-mutilation, which points to deep unresolved psychological issues.

“Estimates of transgender suicide attempts vary widely, from 20 to 50%, depending on the study group and geographic location of the study.  (Government sources do not track transgender statistics.)  But no matter where in the range it falls, the high death rate should alarm us all and be the positive proof that switching of genders is neither safe nor effective as a treatment for gender disorders or depression.” (Page 3)

Three doctors were in favor of gender altering for anyone who desired to do so.  Something that I found rather sickening is that these doctors all were advocates of pedophilia.  At least one of them, Dr. Alfred Kinsey, saw nothing wrong with bestiality, incest, adultery, prostitution, group sex, transvestitism, sadomasochism – and this man actually worked to overthrow any law that prohibited any of these perversions.

Dr. John Money – who was connected to John Hopkins University – was also the co-founder of the John Hopkins Gender Identity Clinic in the 1960s.  He and his team of surgeons started a trend in changing genders – sadly his work set out to redefine male and female.  In October, 1966 news spread throughout America that Dr. Money had changed a man into a woman.

“He delivered what he said was “sex change” surgery to mainstream America. This man’s ego could not be contained.  Later, the term sex change was replaced with gender reassignment.  Let’s call it paper genders because the only change is on paper – birth certificate, driver’s license, and so forth.” (Page 9)

“We as a society have now become enmeshed with the growing number of political sexual activists.  When the truth is inconvenient, we exclude it.  When facts get in the way, we make up our own, no matter how absurd or foolish . . . The absurdity of being asked to believe that a surgeon with a scalpel can change someone’s gender is the greatest medical fraud in our lifetime.” (Page 10)

Something that remains hidden from the general public is the dark side in all of their attempts at “changing” someone from the gender they were born with.  The fact is that 30 to 50% of transgender patients commit suicide – either before they have surgery to change their gender, or during the years following their surgery.  This is a fact that is still true today.

There was an account in this book that is absolutely heartbreaking.  It involved a set of twin boys born in 1965.  Suffice it to say, Dr. Money put on a terrific show about how he dealt with this set of twins.  Proclaimed loudly that “gender was learned” and not something we are born with.  He went so far as to stick to his belief that everything was just fine with the twins.

In 2000, the twins went public with their story of how Dr. Money had treated them, and it was not a pretty picture.  Clearly – the young men exposed how twisted and wrong the “doctor” was in the way he had dealt with them ever since they were 2 years old.  Sadly both of these young men ended their own lives before they were 40 years old.  Yes – they were twin boys.  “David” was never a well-adjusted, happy, female.

In 1975, Dr. Jon Meyer conducted a study on 50 of the transsexuals who had been treated at the Gender Identity Clinic – of which he had been the chairman of since 1969.

“On August 10, 1979, he announced his results, which were far different than Money’s a decade before.  “To say that this type of surgery cures psychiatric disturbance is incorrect.  We now have objective evidence that there is no real difference in the transsexual’s adjustment to life in terms of jobs, educational attainment, marital adjustment and social stability,” he said.” (Pages 14-15)

Dr. Paul McHugh came to the following conclusion after a study was done on 50 interviews with people who requested – and went through with – the unusual “sex change” surgery. . .

“We saw the results as demonstrated that just as these men enjoyed cross-dressing as women before the operation so they enjoyed cross-living after it.  But they were no better in their psychological integration or any easier to live with.  With these facts in hand I concluded that Hopkins was fundamentally cooperating with a mental illness.  We psychiatrists, I thought, would do better to concentrate on trying to fix their minds and not their genitalia.” (Page 15)

Dr. Jon Meyer – the man who actually conducted the study said the following …

“My personal feeling is that surgery is not a proper treatment for a psychiatric disorder, and it’s clear to me that these patients have severe psychological problems that don’t go away following surgery.” (Page 16)

With the results of this study being completely contrary to Dr. Money’s reports of success, there was closure of “almost” all of the affiliated gender clinics across the country.  But thanks to Dr. Money’s fraud – the damage done by “proving” sex change surgery was successful had already been planted in people’s minds . . . Thus, gender surgery has been a big hit in America.

There are standards that have been written and adopted by these doctors who do sex change surgery.  Problem is – the guidelines are not being adhered to.  There are certain steps that should be taken with every individual who wants to have their gender permanently altered with surgery.  The standards state that a psychologist is supposed to evaluate the “candidate” through multiple sessions before approval is obtained for gender change surgery.  In 1981, there was one instance where an approval letter was given to a person after having one 45-minute office visit.  This shows that these so-called “standards” are more like a speed limit sign – most often they are not followed.

Here is a quote from Dr. Harry Benjamin – one of those who are for sex change operations…

“One must understand the main problem of transsexuals.  In English, it is properly named “gender dysphoria”, i.e. a discrepancy between anatomy and sexual self-identification.  It does not follow that one should perform surgery in every case, because there are cases in which such surgery is later regretted, sometimes many years later.  Many transsexuals may also manage without surgery as long as they are being treated with hormones and can wear the clothing of the desired (more precisely: truly felt) sex.  At the same time, some psychotherapy should be provided.  As I said, this can occasionally be a tolerable solution.  I myself am for the operation, but it should be applied critically and cautiously.” (Page 19)

Dr. Benjamin’s words – still true – are totally forgotten.

Here are the main things I’ve found so far – facts about changing genders … There is truly no gender change made except on paper.  There is a very high risk of suicide for those who pursue permanently attempting to change their physical appearance.  No matter which way the decision is made (just using hormones or altering their physical appearance) – the family they were born into basically loses that family member.

I was appalled to learn that a “doctor” by the name of Norman Spack began injecting hormone blockers into children between the ages of 7 to 12 years old in 2005!!  Young children cannot begin to understand anything about sexuality – including a decision that involves their own gender.  ANY parent that would even consider having one of their children injected with such a life changing thing “before” they even begin puberty should have their head examined!!!

Even with using these hormone blockers, all of the doctors in the world cannot change the DNA of any human being alive – ever . . . If that doesn’t provide enough evidence to PROVE that God makes every individual exactly the way He wants them to be – gender included – then, I don’t know what it will take to remove the blinders that society (and a handful of doctors) have had placed on their faces . . .

“The routine practice of abortion as just one more method of birth control promotes the view that it’s okay to kill an unborn child simply for the convenience of the parents.  Homosexual and transgender activists have become increasingly successful in getting laws passed that further their agenda.  When combined, the effects on how we as a society perceive children are staggering, providing a backdrop for experimenting on children.” (Page 27)

I can honestly say that I truly pity the parents and children in today’s society.  Every family is faced with outside influences and agendas that are aimed completely at our youth . . .

“In 2007 … Thanks to SB777, written by and advanced by a lesbian who has no kids in school, the public schools are now ground zero for advocating homosexuality and gender change.  The homosexual, lesbian, and transgender extremists quietly won a major assault on children’s minds.  SB777 requires schools to not just teach reading, writing, and arithmetic, but mandates that when school children as young as kindergarten participate in school- sponsored activities, those activities must positively portray cross-dressing, sex change, and all aspects of homosexuality.  The word “all” includes pedophilia.” (Pages 27 – 28)

Sadly, our society is faced with “surgery happy” doctors who are much too quick to push for this life altering surgery – and basically they won’t even contemplate alternatives with their patients.  As long as the doctors can find a way to make sex change surgery “medically necessary”, then insurance companies or the government will pay anywhere from $25,000 to $70,000 for every patient.  All that is done, literally, is cosmetic surgery – and there is nothing medically necessary about that.

“Medically necessary is amputating a limb because of gangrene infection.  Medically necessary is providing prescription medication for depression in concert with good and constant long-term psychotherapy.  Not medically necessary is removing perfectly good body parts or giving some guy breast implants so he can cosmetically look different.” (Page 35)

Dr. Spack – the fella who will give hormone blockers to children as young as 7 years old – says those children should wait until they are 16 years of age . . . He says that by 16, they are old enough to understand the long-term consequences of going through with gender change.

“Researchers across the country have collaborated in a large project to map the development of the brain from childhood through adulthood.  What they have found is that the very areas in the brain that provide the ability to plan for the future and foresee consequences do not mature until the early 20s.” (Page 35)

“Says Dr. Jay Giedd of the National Institute of Mental Health:  “Teens are capable of enormous intellectual and artistic accomplishments.  But that basic part of the brain that give us strategies and organizing and perhaps warns us of potential consequences isn’t fully on board yet.” (Page 35)

“Dr. Andrew Garner of the American Academy of Pediatrics notes that the adolescent brain is still developing through the teen years and not yet fully mature until age 24.” (Page 36)

“Spack feels kids have the maturity to know how they will respond years later to making a gender change but research shows that the brain is not mature enough to understand.  Psychologists with educated mature brains struggle to understand the implications of gender issues and their treatment, how then can we expect a teenager to comprehend them?” (Page 36)

The real and “sorry” truth of psycho-surgery is that there has been no real help for a significant percentage of those having gender surgery – and the results of treatment leaves a trail of broken lives and families.

It was amazing to read about the “frontal lobotomy”, a much acclaimed surgical procedure for “low functioning” people that began in the 1930s and 1940s.  The history of the procedure should have taught our society a great deal about using surgeries that are irreversible and have the potential to destroy lives – but that history hasn’t taught us anything.

“Lobotomies changed low functioning people into simple apathetic objects who just stared off into space and needed care for the rest of their lives.” (Page 55)

“Gender surgery is irreversible and changes people, too.  After surgery, they are neither man nor woman but plastic surgical configurations of male or female that do not fit into either world.  They commit suicide and/or regret the surgery.  Some, after many years, want to return to their birth gender even though, sadly, their genitalia no longer match that gender.”

“Yet, the radical, irreversible, life-changing gender surgery has grown in acceptance and in use as treatment for depression and mental disorders over the ensuing decades.  Amazing how its progress mirrors the practice of lobotomy.  Even with the prevalence of suicides, alcoholism, drug addition, regret and disappointment that follows gender change surgery, it continues to be heralded as the treatment of choice.  Just like they did with the lobotomy years ago, the very practitioners of the treatment are the ones defining success so that serious side effects aren’t considered, and the media cooperates to glamorize the wonder and success of the treatment.  Activists and doctors loudly campaign to expand the use of treatment and discourage any other form of intervention for gender issues.” (Pages 55-56)

There is a 40-year history in regard to the frontal lobotomy.  That gives us just a glimpse into how long it can take to actually “see” the results when surgery is used to treat a psychological disorder.  I cannot truly understand a doctor plunging an ice pick into the brain of one of my children – and that’s how lobotomies were done for many years . . . It’s a procedure that I would not have given permission to be done on my child without a whole lotta research being done on it – and believe me, I would’ve dug deep enough that I would have found what happened in the majority of the patients who had gone through a frontal lobotomy.

“It is difficult to tell the difference between the insanity of the asylum patients from the insanity of the physician who would plunge an ice pick into someone’s brain.  How about the practice of cutting off a man’s genitals or injecting a ten-year-old boy with powerful drugs to stop the natural development of male puberty?  Who is sicker, the patient or the doctor?”  (Page 59)

Reading this book has brought back the “fact” that doctors are licensed – not because they know exactly what needs to be done for any patient they see.  They are taught well in Medical School, but that in no way makes them the final authority on any human beings physical, emotional, or mental health.  They are licensed to “practice medicine”. . .

Gender surgeons today testify that gender change has a very high rate of success by failing to include the suicides, regret, medical problems, and those who return to their birth gender.  Researchers and doctors will hide facts, twist the results and hide failures from their peers and public in order to protect their practice and prestige.  Meanwhile, the lives of patients are irreparably damaged.” (Page 71)

“In the name of political correctness, differing views are silenced, even views based on objective evidence.  By insisting on political correctness, activists enjoy unchecked freedom to promote any myth they want.” (Page 95)

“Over the years, people have said that homosexuality is developed in the womb.  The Human Genome Project identified all the genes in human DNA and found no homosexual gene existed (no transgender gene either).  Scientifically, to say that a gay gene causes homosexuality is not supported by DNA studies . . . Therefore, homosexuality, life transgenderism, is far more likely to have been evolving during childhood development or perhaps later in life.” (Pages 95-95)

“As a person who was subjected to frequent childhood molestations and abuses perpetrated by an adult, I say this:  anyone who supports, engages in, or identifies with pedophilia in any way, shape or form is a very sick individual who should be put away.  I find it appalling that anyone could even consider the decriminalization of child abuse.  I will never in my lifetime be able to shake off the psychological effects of that childhood sexual abuse at the hands of my uncle.”

“Young kids are impressionable and as the brain research shows, early experiences shape them, in good ways or in harmful ways.” (Page 97)

I have got to agree with the author, I’ve never seen anyone not have problems of some kind after being molested/abused at a young age and/or it lasting over a long period of time . . . And quite honestly, those usually go hand in hand.  Mr. Heyer has the experience of being molested and abused as a child and readily admits that it did “play a part” in his adult decision to become a woman for several years.  He has not written this book from a Christian perspective – quite the opposite.  I have gleaned much information from all of his hard work and I have learned from his own life experience.  He is a good man, and has a true desire to help those who have the same problems he has suffered with. He wrote this book from a worldly position, and it is filled with statistics, history, and actual reports and findings of results that people ignore.

“We seem to be pushovers, not even putting up much of a fight, as if we are all hypnotized and brain-dead.  All the while, activists are redefining marriage and gender identity, and advancing pedophilia as normal.” (Page 98)

“Transgenders whine that their civil rights are being denied like those of blacks before the advent of the Civil Rights Movement.  I find this to be a very shameful and unfortunate comparison.  Blacks were relegated to poor housing and the back of the bus, and were hung by ropes in trees.  Blacks simply wanted freedom to sit in a restaurant, take any seat on the bus, vote, and not live in fear for their lives.  All very good reasons to want freedom and I’m happy these things changed. . . Unlike our black brothers and sisters who are black at birth, transgenders were not born as transgenders; it took life experiences, hormones, and a surgical procedure.”

“The truth is:  transgenders are treated like rock stars.  Movies and television shows glorify their life.  They march in gay pride parades.  Transgenders can sit in any restaurant, in fact they own many restaurants, and they can take any seat on the bus.  They not only can vote, in fact, they are a very influential voting block.  They go to the very best schools and universities in this country with freedom and protections in every state, but they want more, much more.  They are redefining the very core of men, women and families. (Page 99)

“We as a society have become so accustomed to looking the other way when confronted with lies, that we become the living fabric of the lies.  When the truth is inconvenient, we just exclude it.  When facts get in the way, we make up our own.  No matter how absurd or foolish the argument; even when faced with overwhelming objective evidence to the contrary, we swallow the lie.” (Page 103)

I’ve read several articles and books on this transgender ideology, and there is one common thing I have found in all that I have read.  Unhappiness with a person’s life, is that commonality.  Upon realizing this one fact, it occurred to me that every living human being goes through a variety of times when they are unhappy with their life.

Being unhappy with your life is definitely not the criteria that should be used when evaluating someone for gender change (cosmetic) surgery.  In the end, unhappiness will always be there because that’s an emotional thing – not something physical.  Trying to change the gender we are born as to the opposite sex, is comparable to filing for a divorce simply because my spouse made me feel unhappy last week.

There are many ways to make changes in our lives that will enable our happiness.  Changing, or trying to change, who we were born as, really isn’t the best plan of action for anyone seeking happiness in life.  If a person is seeking true and lasting happiness, making superficial changes to their outward appearance isn’t gonna help.  All the changes we can make on the outside of our body, has absolutely nothing to do with our emotions.  The real person cannot be touched or changed by all the knife-wielding doctors out there who are ready to cut us up into something completely foreign from the way God created us to be.



How Many Churches

Very well thought out and written……

Revival Or Decay Ministries

I have driven all over the USA in the short time (2 years) I have been an over the road truck driver – small towns, big cities, North, South, East and West – and there is something that I have noticed, and it is bothering me to the core. The Lord has put this situation on my heart – and I believe it is part of my message – Just how many churches do we need??

In the southeast – there are beautiful towns… Small towns, with southern hospitality, where the people still say “God Bless you” – but there are also times when I see five, six or EVEN SEVEN churches within two or three miles of each other.. Now what, pray tell is this? Is it, my friend, that there are just an abundance of people who appear in this town of 500 people on Sunday, that they…

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Parents, keep listening to your gut—not the gender therapist

Wow … Here’s something that can be an uplifting thing to parents who are trying to “deal” with their teenager about being transgender. My prayer is that it will be helpful to the parents who can use this lady’s experience in their own lives ❤


A few months ago, my teenage daughter stopped trying to “pass” as male. She dropped the self-defined-as-male uniform, the stereotyped swagger and the fake-deepened voice and just—moved on. Her fervent desire to be seen and treated as a boy faded away, just as other formerly unshakable ideas and urges had in the past. And our relationship has never been better.

Although I’ve allowed myself to exhale, just a little, she will remain at risk, because every sector of society—the media, the government, the schools, medicine and psychology–is now saturated with the message that trans is real; trans is good;  and if you’re a “gender nonconforming” girl, you just might actually be a boy.

What did I, and the other adults who love her, do? It hasn’t been easy. In fact, for a time it was a living hell, a purgatory of slammed doors, stony silence, yelling matches, and mostly—waiting.


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How Do Things Get So Crazy?

How things get so messed up – that’s a real good question.  I remember when I was carrying my first child, how thrilling it was to think that I was having a little baby and what a wonderful addition to my life it would be!  At first, yes, it was tremendous!  I could feel the joy that comes with motherhood, and it was a terrific feeling to experience.  In only 5 short years, I began to see difficulties that made me shudder at the mere thought of ever having another child.

I discovered, after both my children were grown, their childhood was something I would long to relive – over and over.  It’s so much easier to deal with day to day life when your children are youngsters and pretty much under your control.  Actually, I would call it more protection than control.  However, life doesn’t work that way, so our children grow up and leave home.  Sometimes their decisions can break your heart … and I’m afraid that is all I have ever known – complete heart break with both of my children.

We – my husband and I – raised our children in a Christian home, that’s kind of a rarity these days which is sad all by itself.  Not just an ordinary Christian home, but one like I grew up in … a preacher’s home.  Life can be extremely difficult for a preacher’s kid – I know that, because I was one too.  There are terrific advantages to being a preacher’s kid, too, though.  For one thing – and the most important thing in life – you have much more chance of accepting Jesus Christ as your Saviour – therefore going to heaven when you leave this world.  I’m truly thankful that both of our children professed their faith in Jesus when they were young.

As a teenager, our boy surrendered his life to the Lord’s work as a preacher.  By the time he was 17, he also felt he would be used in evangelism just like his grandfather.  I must say, that after I actually heard my son preach, he would have been a very good evangelist.  Well, that didn’t happen.  Our boy didn’t become a preacher – in fact, he went to the complete opposite end of the spectrum.  About 4 years ago, he became a ‘satanic high priest’ … Hmmmm, I suppose you could say that has broken my heart – very much.

Our daughter began singing in the church as a young teenager … she has a very pretty voice.  Once she turned 17, she decided that she’s a lesbian.  Now, at 18, she has moved out of the house, has no job or income, with a school loan staring her in the face.  I will never know the ‘joy’ of being able to have a grandchild that could possibly be normal.  Yes, this was (and is) another heart break for me.

What happened?  I have absolutely NO idea.  If I knew, then I would do everything in my power to change things.  This Mama’s heart has been broken severely over her children.  I know, in my heart, that the way my children turned out has nothing to do with the ‘way’ I raised them.  Maybe they didn’t see Mama praying or reading my Bible enough … that’s a possibility, but I don’t think that would change their ‘heart’ and what they decided to do with their lives.  In today’s society – their decisions are not ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’ … WHAT on earth is this world coming to?!?!  I already know the answer to that question … it’s coming to an end – it has to be.

The best advice this old woman can give any parent of young children now is:  Always pray with and for your children.  Make sure you take them to church because they need to learn of Jesus and His love.  Do the best you can at instilling good values in them … you have no control over what they will do with them when they are grown, but you need to do your part.  If this helps ‘any’ parent, in any way, it has done the job I wanted done with it.  I know there are many people who will call me a ‘kook’ … that’s okay, I grew up being called worse things.  Just remember, God watches everything you say and do … He IS the final authority … even though you may not believe He exists.  One day, all of humanity will believe He is real … don’t let it be too late for you, my friend, call on Jesus Christ today for salvation.

Romans 3:23, Romans 6:23, Romans 5:8, Romans 10:9, 10 & 13