Another Book Read – Another Blog Written


I just finished reading “Transgender: A Talking Points Book” written by Vaughn Roberts. Yet again, this is a book that I would highly recommend to anyone who has a loved one involved in this “new” concept that seems to be sweeping this country by storm.

Since the transgender movement has personally touched my life and family, I’ve been able to discuss the issue with a variety of people from all walks of life.  Through those I’ve spoken with, I’ve gotten almost the same amount of opinions on the subject.  Human beings don’t have the answers that are meaningful and/or necessary on the issue of the transgender ideology, but the Word of God does.  What better authority to seek than the One who created every unique individual on the earth.  The author of the above book caught my attention in the first paragraph of the introduction.

“Christians living in the Western culture have enjoyed the benefits of being in a world which largely shared our assumptions about what is fundamentally right and wrong.  We can no longer assume that this is the case.”  (Page 7)

What this man just said, is alarmingly true.  Personally, I have found fewer people who understand that everything involved with the transgender movement goes completely against God and nature, than those who just don’t seem to care about an issue in today’s society.

Having a baby and going by the “sex” or “gender” the child is born with, seems to not be how we are supposed to class our little ones in life.  However – the Creator of the universe was satisfied with making each of our offspring the gender He decided each would be upon conception.

“Many people have assumptions about what it means to be transgender but, fundamentally, it isn’t about surgery or how someone dresses.  It’s about how they feel inside … Those who identify as transgender may consider themselves heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual (or perhaps, pansexual, polysexual, or asexual), just as the rest of the population might.”  (Page 15)

Wow – what a list of items that can be “pinned” on human beings – all to do with their sexuality.

There is a physical condition that affects a very small percentage of the population who are actually born without the clear distinction of being male or female.  And when that does occur with a birth, there has to be a decision made as to whether the child is more of one gender or the other.  That small percentage of individuals are called “intersex”.  The vast majority of those affected by this condition will grow up and identify as the gender that the doctors recommended to the parents of the baby when it was born.

“By contrast, transgender is to do with how people think or feel.  They are born either male or female, but their feelings about their gender don’t fit with their sex.” (Page 15)

To be clear on this point:

“There is no agreement on what causes gender dysphoria … Some argue the brain-sex theory, according to which transgender people have a male-type brain in a female body, or vice versa.  The evidence for this view is far from conclusive.  After a thorough survey of the evidence Lawrence Mayer and Paul McHugh comment:  “All interpretations, usually in popular outlets, claiming or suggesting that a statistically significant difference between the brains of people who are transgender and those who are not is the cause of transgender or not … are unwarranted.”  Others believe that nurture – psychological environment in childhood – is the dominant factor.  After a thorough survey of the arguments on both sides, one author honestly admits:  “We don’t know what causes gender dysphoria.”  In all the uncertainty, however, one thing is clear:  those who experience gender dysphoria certainly do not simply choose to do so.”  (Page 18)

I honestly believe that there is a faction of our population that wants to – and does – promote the “idea” of transgender.  To hear from parents with children who have not gone through puberty – and they are already caught up in this gender confusion – shows that those youngsters are learning about the “in” thing somewhere.  Let’s face it – our kids hear about most things through their friends, school, television, and social media. Parents are losing touch with their kids at younger ages than ever before, and I highly doubt we will see a return to closeness in the family unit – even though that would do a lot to right many wrongs that are happening in society.

How Should a Christian Respond to the Transgender Movement?

Christians should always do their best to show genuine love and compassion toward every human being we come into contact with.  Most of us can only imagine the distress and pain that is undoubtedly a part of gender dysphoria.  It is vital that Christians never think or talk with any disrespect about those who struggle with the issue of their gender. We must do our best to show everyone the love of God.  It is important that we not speak in a way they find hurtful and/or degrading.  Granted, there will be situations where we are gonna make mistakes because we are all human beings – but we shouldn’t intentionally say anything hurtful to anyone.

For myself – personally – that means that I need to “think” before I speak, and most usually that will change the way I say something.  I always have to stop and think “WWJD”, what would Jesus do – what would Jesus think or say – how would Jesus react to this – and the list goes on and on.

Along this same line of thinking, Christians need to always remember that God will never condone or be “okay” with anyone who decides to literally attempt to change who He made them to be.  That is something that doesn’t go over well in the transgender circle – yet, there are those caught up in gender dysphoria who claim to be Christians.

Be sure that God never changes – human beings do, but not Him.

Hebrews 13:8 “Jesus Christ the same yesterday, and to day, and for ever.”

Hebrews 10:23 “Let us hold fast the profession of our faith without wavering; (for he is faithful that promised;)”

Hebrews 10:26-27 “For if we sin wilfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins, But a certain fearful looking for of judgement and fiery indignation, which shall devour the adversaries.”

Hebrews 10:31 “It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.”

Today, there are even “Christians” who feel like this:

“Modern authenticity encourages us to create our own beliefs and morality, the only rule being that they must resonate with who we feel we really are.  The worst thing we can do is to conform to some moral code that is imposed on us from outside – by society, our parents, the church, or whoever else.  It is deemed to be self-evident that any such imposition would undermine our unique identity … The authentic self believes that personal meaning must be found within ourselves or must resonate with our one-of-a-kind personality.” (Page 27)

“Over the last few decades the primacy of self-expression has become an unquestioned assumption of many.  No one has the right to question or challenge how each individual chooses to define themselves.” (Page 28)

“Judith Lorber, a radical feminist, writes … When we no longer ask “boy or girl?” in order to start gendering an infant, when the information is as irrelevant as the colour of a child’s eyes … only then will men and women be socially interchangeable and really equal.  And when that happens there will no longer be any need for gender at all.” (Page 28)

In our world today, we have a deeply rooted conviction.  Everyone is free to define who they are however they wish, and nobody has the right to question that.  The change in the attitudes of professionals is shown like this.  In 1994, someone having gender issues was said to have “gender identity disorder.”  That was changed in 2013 to “gender dysphoria.”  Emphasis was changed from the disorder to the distress that accompanies it.

“Approaches to treatment have also changed.  Any attempt to try to “correct” a person’s gender identity so that it conforms to their biological sex is now increasingly seen as unacceptable.  It is now the body rather than the mind that is often treated, with hormones or surgery being used to change the body so it conforms to a person’s sense of identity … A group of American pediatricians have spoken our saying, “Young children are being permanently sterilized and surgically maimed under the guise of treating a condition that would otherwise resolve in over 80% of them.” (Page 31)  The same pediatricians called that “criminal”.  That same group of doctors described it by comparing it to a person who suffers with anorexia.  “Surgery to “affirm” the patient’s false assumption that they are overweight, perhaps by liposuction, might reduce their emotional distress, but it will not have addressed the underlying psychological problem and will result in significant physical harm, even death.” (Page 32)

Most Christians know the Gospel according to God’s Holy Word.  God’s Son, the Lord Jesus Christ, is who leads to freedom and fulfillment. The world uses a different “gospel” story …

“For years our spirits have been suffocated by restrictive traditions and morality. But now we must have the courage to follow our own light.  We must resist anyone or anything that stands in our way.  We must discover the hero inside ourselves and enter into the freedom that comes when we become who we really are.” (Page 34)

It is a most difficult thing to discuss something that can hurt another individual so very deeply – yet, sometimes it’s necessary to talk of the truth.  And that is what I’m offering to every Mama on the internet the ability to become involved with others who have children in the same boat.  I know from my own experience that talking to others about what you are going through, does nothing but ‘help’ you with your own emotions and the roller coaster ride that you will also be riding … None of this is easy – and that goes for everyone who is living with this kind of situation involving members of your family.

Please feel free to contact me directly through my email, susienicholson33@gmail.com, if you would like to just be able to talk to someone.  I’m not necessarily full of advice, but I do have a listening ear, a caring heart, and the ability to pray for you and your circumstances.

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4 thoughts on “Another Book Read – Another Blog Written

  1. Nancy says:

    Beautifully spoken Susie….

  2. Paula Joe May says:

    Susie, your thoughts and research are in perfect order. The experiences we have learned during this happening in our family verify this is true. Mama’s take heart and learn all you can. It helps to know others are going through the same thing. Stay in close contact with our Lord and He will get you through this and you WILL get the strength and peace to endure these circumstances. My personal experience with my son’s choice to abandon his mama is similar and coping is the same. I am dead to my son. We don’t understand why any of these things can happen, but they do. I have accepted that my son will never have contact with me again. That leaves any mama heart broken just as you are broken hearted. With our Lord walking with us we will survive.

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